Do You Believe in Soulmates ? The Question That Refuses to Grow Old
My answer to this is : “Yes, I do. But perhaps not in the way Bollywood taught us.”
Most movies depict soulmates as two people who meet eyes in a busy room, music starts playing, and the universe seems to agree. Like a Shahrukh khan in movie “Main Hoon Na” !!
Real life is often less dramatic: no background music, no slow motion, and usually no certainty. Yet, some connections still feel unique.
They feel familiar. Almost as if two souls are saying, “Oh, there you are. I’ve been looking for you.”
A Small Story :
Many years ago, in a small town in Rajasthan, there lived an old potter named Swapan. Every morning, he would sit under a neem tree shaping clay pots. One day, a young boy asked him, “Dadaji, how do you know which pot is the best one?”
The old man smiled and said, “I don’t. The clay tells me.”
The boy looked confused !! The potter continued to say : “Some clay resists. Some clay cracks. Some clay takes shape beautifully. When the right clay meets the right hands, something wonderful happens.”
The boy thought for a moment and then asked , “Is that how people meet too?”
The old man laughed. “Exactly. Some people enter your life and teach you lessons. Some challenge you. Some stay for a season. But once in a while, you meet someone whose presence helps you become your best self.”
“Is that a soulmate ?”
“Perhaps,” said the potter. “Not someone who completes you, but someone who helps you discover the completeness already within you.”
I don’t believe a soulmate is necessarily one perfect person waiting somewhere on Earth.
– A soulmate is someone whose presence feels meaningful.
– Someone who understands your silence.
– Someone who sees your strengths when you’ve forgotten them.
– Someone who accepts your imperfections while encouraging your growth.
– Sometimes that person is a spouse.
– Sometimes a friend.
– Sometimes a parent.
– Sometimes a child.
And occasionally, a complete stranger who changes your life with a single conversation.
Soulmates Are Not Perfect
– One misunderstanding about soulmates is that they never argue.
– That’s like saying Indian families never discuss politics at weddings.
– Impossible ! Even the deepest relationships experience disagreements.
– A soulmate isn’t someone who never challenges you. In fact, they often challenge you the most. Not because they want to hurt you, but because growth rarely happens inside a comfort zone.
– Sometimes the people who help us evolve are not the easiest people to love.
Yet their presence leaves us wiser.
Maybe We Have More Than One Soulmate
This is my favorite belief. What if life gives us many soulmates ?
Different souls for different chapters.
- A Friend.
- A Parent or Sibbling
- A Teacher.
- A Life partner.
- A Mentor.
- A Grandparent.
Each person arrives at the right time to teach us a lesson. Not all soulmates are meant to stay; some leave us with a memory, a lesson, or a new perspective, and that’s okay. Their role was to help us grow, not to remain forever.
And Finally
Perhaps the real question isn’t : “Have I found my soulmate?”
Maybe the better question is: “Am I becoming the kind of person who can recognize and cherish meaningful connections?”
Soulmates are not just found; they are nurtured. They grow through kindness and deepen with trust. They thrive when both individuals choose to see the best in each other, and that may be where true magic is found.
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