Being Positive & Non Judgemental

JUDGE A PERSON
There is one type of question I usually feel uncomfortable answering. It is the question where someone expects me to “judge another person”.

Many times it starts very casually — in a group discussion, among friends, or even in family conversations. Someone may ask, “What do you think about him?” or “Don’t you think she is like this?”
From there, the discussion slowly turns into talking about someone who is not even present there.

Personally, I have never been comfortable with that. Gossiping about others has never interested me much.

The reason is simple — we never really know the full story of someone else’s life.
From outside we only see a small part, but we don’t know what pressures, struggles, or situations that person might be dealing with.
So passing comments or judgments about someone’s behaviour feels a little unfair to me.

Also, most of the time such conversations don’t create anything positive. They only increase unnecessary opinions about people.

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COMMENTING ON WOMEN

Another thing I don’t like is when people ask me to comment on a woman’s intelligence, wisdom, or capability in a judgmental way.

Sometimes people say things like:
Do you think she understands these things? OR Is she smart enough to handle this?

To me, these questions don’t feel right. Every person — whether man or woman — has their own strengths, experiences, and way of thinking. It is not correct to reduce someone’s wisdom to a quick opinion in a casual discussion.

I personally is too protective about women in general and truly respect them by all means.

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One more thing I feel strongly about is lying.

I truly dislike lies that harm others, damage someone’s reputation, or create problems for someone else.
Such lies can hurt people deeply and create negativity in relationships.

At the same time, life is not always perfectly black and white.
Sometimes people may say a small lie to protect someone’s feelings, maintain peace, or avoid unnecessary conflict.
When the intention is genuinely for the wellbeing of others, I feel the situation becomes more about intention than strict correctness.

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Personally, I prefer conversations that:

• exchange ideas
• discuss experiences
• learn something new
• or simply create good energy.

Talking about people, judging them, or analysing their personal qualities usually does not lead to anything meaningful.